iris voice #3: Emily

Emily is a single woman now in her late forties. During her late thirties and forties, Emily experienced recurrent miscarriages both with a male partner and using donor sperm as a single person. Emily has a genetic condition which has meant that regardless of her current age, donor eggs have always been something she […]

iris voice #2: Gemma and Charlotte

Gemma and Charlotte are a same-sex couple. They are in their early thirties and forties respectively. They first approached me for some guidance because their GP was struggling to understand how to refer two females to their local fertility clinic. At that stage they were seeking a referral for initial fertility investigations so that […]

iris voice #1: Jess and Tom

Jess and Tom are a heterosexual couple in their mid to late thirties. They have a five-year-old child conceived easily and naturally. They have been trying to conceive a second child for over three years.

Jess contacted me after their first unsuccessful round of IVF at their local clinic. Jess was understandably disappointed that their […]


Recently, I was sorting through some clothes. I was after something I could get dirty as I was heading out on a dog walk. I was, at the time, so happy to find the item I was looking for. I hadn’t been able to wear it for a few years, not helped by the […]

Grieving ‘nothing’

At the beginning of the year I set myself a challenge of writing for 30 uninterrupted minutes every day. On Day 9 I stopped. It hadn’t been my intention to do so. I’d proclaimed that I could manage 365 days but by the ninth day not only had the idea for iris been cemented […]

Who uses an iris fertility sherpa?

Here at iris we take great pride in working sensitively alongside some really lovely people, from all walks of life, who are affected by all sorts of fertility issues. We recognise that anyone who requires medical help to conceive has a unique set of circumstances and whilst others may be in a similar position, […]


When I was growing up I used to see everything as an adventure but as I’ve got older that spirit seems to have subsided and often things feel quite predictable and defined. Like many people, I often leave the house with a purpose and a known destination. I suspect I’m not alone in sometimes […]